For years, popular ideas about romance have centred on becoming one with your partner. Phrases such as “You complete me” and “I can’t live without you” have often presented love as something that requires complete emotional and personal involvement. But relationship expectations are shifting, particularly among Gen Z, who are increasingly placing value on individuality alongside emotional closeness.
In an interview with Hindustan Times, Chandni Gaglani, EVP and Head of Aisle, explained how younger people are approaching love, commitment and personal freedom differently.
Gen Z wants love without losing individuality
According to Chandni, traditional ideas of relationships often placed togetherness at the centre. Couples were expected to spend much of their time together, share friends and social circles, make decisions jointly and allow the relationship to become a major part of their identity.
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Gen Z, however, appears more comfortable maintaining the life they had before entering a relationship.
“For Gen Z, finding a meaningful relationship does not necessarily mean giving up the life that existed before it. They want love, companionship and emotional intimacy, but increasingly, they also want the freedom to remain individuals within the relationship,” highlighted Chandni.
“Their careers, friendships, interests, ambitions and personal space continue to matter. This isn’t necessarily a rejection of commitment. Instead, it reflects a changing understanding of what commitment can look like: choosing someone without having to lose yourself in the process,” added Chandni.
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Chandni noted that having separate friendships, individual interests, solo travel plans, personal routines or time alone does not necessarily signal emotional distance for Gen Z.
“Compatibility is no longer just about enjoying the same things or wanting the same future. It can also mean being comfortable with each other’s differences and giving each other the room to explore them,” said Chandni.
Love can complement identity, not replace it
The idea of a partner “completing” someone is also giving way to a more individual-centred understanding of love.
“The idea of a partner completing you is gradually giving way to something more balanced: finding someone who complements the life you are already building. This doesn’t make the relationship less meaningful,” explained Chandni.
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For Gen Z, commitment can mean sharing a life while continuing to nurture personal ambitions, friendships, hobbies and interests.
Commitment without losing yourself
At the heart of this changing approach is the possibility of staying emotionally connected while retaining a sense of self. Separate interests, shared values and time apart can coexist with a committed relationship.
Gen Z may not be seeking less commitment, but a different form of it: companionship without confinement, intimacy without dependence and love that leaves room for individuality.
“Because perhaps the healthiest version of love isn’t you. It is I know who I am, you know who you are, and we still choose each other,” concluded Chandni.